i know the information you received yesterday wasn't what any of us were hoping for, but take "a minute," take a breath....let it sink in and try not to focus on the disappointing part of a "dimplectomy" not being one of your options. it hasn't spread or grown tremendously. it's just being an Oliphant = stubborn. try not to go to that panic-y place we were all thrown into when this started. i know, easy for me to say. (not really, but its not my lopsided, uneven, itty bitties we're talking about here!). from what i've read, your chemo drugs may just need to be adjusted, and this is not uncommon when HER2+ is involved.
things have gone SO well so far - now it's time for the tumor to be taken out so you can keep moving forward. you just have to decide which option YOU want. we are all here to support whatever you decide. and i'm happy to remind a surgeon or doctor that it's YOUR body, and they are working for YOU, if that's necessary. if you feel the options are too extreme, then say so...or consider a second opinion again. i don't know if you'll ever really be able to be comfortable with anything but a lumpectomy, since that's what we were convinced was going to happen....but it doesn't mean you have to choose the option that seems so extreme either.
whatever happens, THE CANCER IS COMING OUT!!! :) and then the downhill slide of all that you've gone through begins. and i'm here every step of the way (possibly glaring enviously at your new tah-tahs, but hey...).
trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight.
i can do everything through Him who gives me strength
be strong and courageous. do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; He will never leave you nor forsake you. the Lord himself goes before you and will be with you; He will never leave you nor forsake you. do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.
Deuteronomy 31:6, 8